Confusing Your Loved One and the Addiction

Confusing Your Loved One and the AddictionIf someone you love in Philadelphia has developed an addiction, you have probably felt intense love and disappointment at the same moment. The person you love is living with the danger and pain of an addiction you hate. A great deal of what you value may be taken away. Love, anger, sadness and hope all occupy space in your mind. Be careful not to confuse your loved one and his addiction.

The Addiction Is Not a Person

To family members of people with addictions, it sometimes feels as though there are two people inside a single body. Remembering that your loved one is the only real person involved can help keep the situation clear in your mind. Addiction is a habit which can no longer be controlled. Habits and addictive behaviors begin to define an addict’s identity. When your loved one is repeatedly stealing or lying or disappointing the people who care about him, it can be easy to confuse those addictive behaviors with the person. However it is unfair to let your loved one’s identity be defined by the disease of addiction.

Confusing Selfishness and Suffering

Addicts take a lot from their families. In addition to money and time, they can take away peace from mind and the home. Normally, it is a selfish person who takes all those things to bring themselves greater ease and fun in life, but when addiction is guiding these actions, it does not result in ease or fun. Suffering only grows as drug use increases and takes a larger role in an individual’s life in Philadelphia.

Confusing Indulgence and Compassion

The addict and the addiction both need help from others. Focus on the differences between the help the person needs and the help an addiction needs to grow. An addiction requires indulgence. If you have to abandon your principles, ignore your better judgment or deceive yourself or others, then you are indulging the addiction. Addiction needs money to be given, lies to be believed and excuses to be accepted.

The addict also needs all the help you can give, but helping the person is substantively different. You can withhold the indulgence the addiction needs and still provide limitless compassion. Your loved one needs unshakable love, forgiveness and faith, and he or she needs your support and encouragement to find professional recovery help and reclaim his or her identity outside of addiction.

Find Identity outside of Addiction

We help separate addicts from their addictions, and we can help you and your loved one do the same. Call our toll-free helpline to learn more about addictions, recovery and resources for a drug-free life in Philadelphia.